6 Secrets To Building a Marriage That Lasts

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The following post was written by Glen Solberg. Glen is a marriage counselor in our Little Rock, Arkansas office.

72 years. No way!

I had to re-read the number.

But my eyes were not faulty. The couple my wife and I were reading about had indeed been married 72 years. That’s not something you hear about every day, especially in today’s world.

As I have pondered the story of Bruce and Esther Huffman since then, I have thought about Paul’s words in 2 Timothy 4 that speak of “finishing the race”.  The Lord had given me a picture of what it means to finish well in marriage in Bruce and Esther.

I want to finish well, like Bruce and Esther.

I know if you are married and reading this, you may be thinking the same thing. You may even be asking yourself the question I had to ask myself:

“What do I need to do today and tomorrow and next week to be intentional about “finishing well” in my marriage?”

As my wife, Shawn, and I pondered that question, here are some suggestions for ways you can work today to have a “Bruce and Esther” kind of marriage:

Marriage Revolution in Little Rock, AR

Introducing Glen Solberg

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We are so excited to announce that Glen Solberg is now available for marriage counseling through Marriage Revolution in Little Rock, Arkansas!

Glen and I met and became friends while we both worked at FamilyLife from 2006 – 2010. Our friendship has grown over the years and through our conversations it became clear that God was leading Glen to help hurting couples in a more focused way through Biblical Counseling. As our conversation continued, we both sensed God leading him to be a part of Marriage Revolution.

Glen and his wife Shawn have been married over 23 years and have three great kids. He has personally seen God’s power in transforming marriages for many years, including his own.

Glen and Shawn were married only a year when they did not see hope for their marriage to continue after Glen’s adulterous affair. But the Lord did a miracle of reconciliation in their marriage and called them to share that hope with others as they served with FamilyLife from 2003 thru 2016. They had the privilege of sharing their story with many couples and walking with them as God brought help and hope to those couples.

Join me in welcoming Glen to our growing team of Biblical Counselors in the comments below!!

Glen’s offices will be located at The Summit Church in North Little Rock.

Please visit our counseling page to view Glen’s complete bio and to schedule your first appointment.

ANNOUNCEMENT

Introducing Kristin Abrahams

Marriage Revolution is so excited to celebrate our 6th anniversary next month! Its hard to believe how God has grown this ministry in such a short amount of time. When I stop and think about it I’m continually overwhelmed.

KristinWhat started out as hanging a counseling shingle on the door has turned into a multi faceted ministry that is helping tens of thousands of couples in all life stages all around the world. As we continue to reach more couples through our events and online resources, the demand for our counseling continues to grow.

We are excited to announce our 2nd addition to our counseling team, Kristin Abrahams, to help us reach even more couples.

Kristin and her Husband Paul have been married for 17 years and they have 3 kids. They both grew up in the Houston area and currently live in the Woodlands where they attend Faith Bible Church.

Kristin has been counseling couples, women, and teenagers for 15 years in a variety of settings, and I’m so excited that she has decided to use her gifts and talents at Marriage Revolution.

Finding good counselors you can trust and wholeheartedly recommend is the hardest part of this season of growth of our ministry. I’m so thankful that God has brought 2 godly, like minded counselors that I can do just that…without reservation.

Kristin will be available for counseling starting Monday, July 18th at our office at Church Project in the Woodlands.

Click HERE to read her full bio and to schedule an appointment.

How Not To Change Your Spouse

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The following post was written by Scott Credeur.

If you went to Sunday school as a kid, its very likely you learned a catchy song with some not so good hand motions that reveals a significant truth about marriage. What song do you ask?

It goes like this:

Zacchaeus was a wee little man and wee little man was he,

He climbed up in a sycamore tree for the Lord he wanted to see,

And as the savior passed that way he looked up in the tree,

And he said, “Zaccheus, you come down!”

For I’m coming to your house today.

What does this song have to do with marriage?

22 Phrases To Turn Your Love Around

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One of my favorite authors and speakers, Paul Tripp, is famous for saying, “Change doesn’t take place in big, dramatic moments. Rather, the transforming work of grace operates in 10,000 little moments of life more than it does in a series of two or three life-altering events.”

I couldn’t agree more.

Here’s what that statement looks like as it relates to marriage, “Marriages are built and destroyed in the everyday small moments of life.”

5 Years Is Just The Beginning

Would you help us make the next 5 even better?

It all started on a 7 hour drive from Little Rock to Houston.

5 years later, Marriage Revolution is a thriving marriage ministry that has impacted hundreds of thousands of couples around the world (Watch the video above to get a glimpse of all that God has accomplished through this ministry).

Our mission is and always will be to provide help and hope to couples without ever letting money stand in the way. Because of our faithful donors, we’ve never had to turn someone away for marriage help because of money over the past 5 years.

But that’s starting to change…

My waiting list is continuing to grow, and over the past 3 months alone I’ve had to turn away over 40 hurting couples that have reached out for help.

  • 40 couples that wanted help.
  • 40 couples that have finally realized they need help.
  • 40 couples who have humbled themselves and gained enough courage to reach out to a virtual stranger to help them in their marriage only to be told,

“I’m sorry, we can’t help you right now.”

More and more I’m turning couples away not directly because of money, but because of capacity.

How do we increase our capacity?

We believe now is the time for us to hire an additional full time Biblical Counselor to help us shoulder the load of couples God is bringing our way. This will be the biggest step of faith we’ve made in our short 5 years of existence, and I also believe it could be the most significant one.

Would you help us take this step by giving a one time gift, or by starting to give on a monthly basis?

Although our overall financial need is huge, the amount of your gift doesn’t need to be. In fact, I’d much rather see 100 families commit to $30 a month as opposed to 1 family commit to $3000 a month.

So, whether you can give a one time gift of $50 or $5000, or give $30 or $300 a month, would you please consider helping us take this step of faith and help exponentially more couples in 2016?

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Thank You!

How to Confess A Sexual Sin To Your Spouse

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When I confessed my sin of pornography to Star about 15 years ago it was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever had to do. It was also one of the most painful times for my wife.

She was shocked. She felt like she had just been hit by a truck. She thought I was a sicko. She thought I needed to be admitted for sexual addiction counseling. We had just rebuilt our marriage from a pile of ashes and now this?

My confession broke trust, exposed insecurities, and shattered any intimacy we had built over the 3 years before. But, I don’t regret it for a second…

Why You Need To Confess Sexual Sin To Your Spouse Now

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I went to Cambodia a couple weeks ago with Tim and Stephanie Broersma. I love this couple. One of the reasons I love them is their authenticity and their willingness to share how God has rescued and restored them from their marriage struggles.

Tim struggled with sexual sin for many years (watch their powerful testimony below). When God led him to confess his sin to Stephanie, he didn’t do it perfect, but he did do a lot right.

Now, 7 years later, their marriage is stronger than ever and they are helping other marriages who have been through the same thing experience similar restoration. One of the biggest reasons they have recovered so well is because Tim confessed right.

So many married men AND women are struggling with sexual sin (pornography, emotional affairs, physical affairs, etc…) and it is destroying their relationship from the inside out. If there is any hope for the restoration of these marriages, confession needs to happen now and it needs to happen right.

I want to help those who are struggling with sexual sin confess in a way that will give their marriage the best possible chances of restoration.

12 Ways To Stay Close When The Going Gets Rough

Guest Post: Janel Breitenstein is a married mother of 4 who writes frequently for FamilyLife. Janel and her husband John currently serve with eMi in Uganda. You can visit her blog at www.agenerousgrace.com

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It was one of the most pressing seasons for our marriage.

We were facing a trifecta of major life decisions—only one of which included the continent we’d be living on. And our marriage that had been marked by teamwork and partnership now found our opinions diverging in opposite directions.

To say we were stressed was more than an understatement.

An Open Letter To A Spouse Who Wants Out

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It usually starts with a phone call. Maybe an e-mail.

And this is the part where I feel my gut clench; I find my fingers covering my lips. No matter how many times I’ve received the news, I’m stunned for a bit. Broken.

The communication is typically from the husband or wife desperate for the marriage to work. He, or she, is pleading with me,

“Please call. Please, please meet with. Please email something—anything—to my spouse. Please do whatever you can to talk them out of leaving, or worse yet, divorce.”

Some of my most challenging, gut-rending work—though it’s why I do what I do!—is when one spouse is completely done with their marriage.

I’ve written previously describing what to do when your spouse wants out. But now I want to speak to the spouse that actually wants out.

To the one who wants to leave…