How to Respect a Husband Who Isn’t Respectable

RESPECT – Valuing and regarding another highly. Treating someone as important or with honor. Communicating or demonstrating that someone has worth. Synonyms: appreciation, awe, admiration, consideration, deference, dignity, esteem, honor, recognition, regard, reverence, or tribute

Let’s be honest. It’s easy to show your husband respect if his behavior is respectable. But what about when it isn’t?

How you can respect your husband if he isn’t respectable?

Submission isn’t Silent

The Submissive Wife—and Finding Your Voice

Guest Post: Janel Breitenstein is a married mother of 4 who writes frequently for FamilyLife. Janel and her husband John currently serve with eMi in Uganda. Additionally, Janel’s husband serves on the Board of Marriage Revolution. You can visit her blog at www.agenerousgrace.com

Submission is not silent

A friend and I were out for a rare breakfast, our hands curled around ceramic mugs of decaf. “What’s the best way to pray for you and your husband?” I’d asked quietly. But it was her answer that surprised me—and the liquid I saw collecting around the rims of her eyes.

“Pray for me”—she paused here—“to find my voice.”

20 Ways To Protect Your Marriage

Guest Post: Janel Breitenstein is a married mother of 4 who writes frequently for FamilyLife. Janel and her husband John currently serve with eMi in Uganda. Additionally, Janel’s husband serves on the Board of Marriage Revolution. You can visit her blog at www.agenerousgrace.com

20 Ways to Protect

You’ve probably got insurance on your car—which you lock pretty much everywhere, maybe with the addition of a swanky alarm.

And let’s think about it. You’ve got safeguards, insurance, and forward-thinking measures for your health. Your house. Your mortgage. Your cash. Your kids (carseats, seatbelts, bike helmets, savings accounts…).

We protect what’s valuable.

But ADT’s got nothing for affairs, broken hearts, or lonely marriages…

Is God ALL we need in marriage?

Can I talk out of both sides of my mouth for a second?

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In a previous post, I explained how Adam’s aloneness in the Garden reveals that we should view our spouse as God’s property, not our own, to love and sacrificially serve.

And further, we should reject the idea of primarily seeing our spouse as an object to meet our needs because Christ is sufficient to provide us everything we need for this life (2 Peter 1:3).

So, someone could summarize my last post by saying, “God is ALL we need”.  And, depending on what they mean by that statement they might be summarizing correctly.  But let me clarify…

Is God all we need?

“You Complete Me”

I’ve written a good amount of anniversary and birthday cards over the past 20 years of being married to Star. Don’t tell her, but I have a couple phrases that I’ve used in those cards more than a few times over:

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  • “I’m so glad I’m married to you”
  • “I’d marry you all over again”
  • “What we’ve gone through has been worth it to have what we have”
  • “I’m a better person because of you”
  • “I thank God for you”

And on and on…(I’ll spare you the more intimate ones)

One phrase that I’ve been tempted to include ever since the late 90’s is, “You complete me”.  Yes, the famous scene you know so well from Jerry Maguire stuck with me.

As romantic a phrase as this is, and as many people that may well intentionally use it, I’ve chosen not to.  Here’s why…

Marriage Must Reads

Catching Foxes” by John Henderson

We must prepare for marriage well – a preparation not of guest lists and wedding attire, but of our souls. Our hearts must be awakened, matured, and strengthened in Jesus Christ. We must learn to appreciate the covenant of marriage. We must learn to wear Jesus Christ. Our hearts must be focused on Him. We must be filled with His grace and learning to follow His words. This book aims to help us accomplish this kind of preparation for marriage.

Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy” by Gary Thomas

Your marriage is more than a sacred covenant with another person. It is a spiritual discipline designed to help you know God better, trust him more fully, and love him more deeply. Scores of books have been written that offer guidance for building the marriage of your dreams. But what if God’s primary intent for your marriage isn’t to make you happy. . . but holy? And what if your relationship isn’t as much about you and your spouse as it is about you and God?

Thriving Despite A Difficult Marriage” by Michael and Chuck Misja

It’s a hard reality for some: Marriage is difficult, disappointing, and painful. Your spouse is unwilling to change. How do you continue, and not just exist but thrive? God can help you move beyond suffering and mere surviving to finding joy and supernatural thriving.