No one typically stands across the altar and says, “I do” with an intention of splitting up. But, fast forward several years and over 50% of married couples are considering divorce and thinking,
“How’d we get here?”
“How could we start out so in love and end up hating each other so much?”.
So many couples are surprised when they are facing divorce because they don’t understand the following principle:
“Direction, not intention, determines your destination.”
Andy Stanley talks about this in detail in his book, “The Principle of the Path“.
Lots of couples have great intentions of being married for 50+ years and raising their kids in a loving and secure home, but very few couples are actually headed in that direction.
The condition of your marriage is never stationary. It’s always moving in 1 of 2 directions. One’s good – INTIMACY. One’s bad – DIVORCE. It’s a sobering reality.
The quicker you and your spouse understand which direction you’re going, the quicker you can both intelligently work on your marriage.
How can you predict if you’ll end up divorced? Have an honest conversation with your spouse about the direction your marriage is currently heading.
If your marriage is headed in the wrong direction, don’t freak out, but please do something!
If your marriage is headed in the right direction, don’t become complacent. Marriage takes constant work. Without work, your marriage will end up drifting in the wrong direction.
Regardless of which direction your marriage is heading, please DO something for your marriage this week to make sure you resist the drift.