Announcing Dane and Paola Hall

We are so excited to announce that Dane and Paola Hall have joined the Marriage Revolution team of Biblical Counselors.

Dane and Paola are immediately available for individual and marriage counseling in our Woodlands, TX office.

Click HERE to view their profile and to book an appointment online.

The Secret To Good Communication

95% of the couples that come to my office for counseling admit they need at least some degree of help in the area of communication. I wouldn’t disagree with any of them! But, I would disagree with most couples understanding of what needs to change with their communication.

Most couples think they need help with the principles of communication. Typically this would involve help in understanding, expression, and listening well. Although I agree there is room for teaching on these subjects, I would argue there is a deeper, more significant problem that is sabotaging communication between a husband and wife.

Is this standing in the way of your dream marriage?

Guest Post: Janel Breitenstein is a married mother of 4 who writes frequently for FamilyLife. Janel and her husband John currently serve with eMi in Uganda. You can visit her blog at www.agenerousgrace.com

Maybe you already know what it is. You know: that one thing. It’s one thing that, like an arm in a cast, its layered hardness immobilizing you from totally embracing your spouse.

Maybe you’re like me; I didn’t even realize it was there. But still, it was a silent, mildly bitter seed I’d unwittingly nurtured when it niggled at me. Sometimes it was watered by a bad day that couldn’t keep pace with my vision of what life could be like if only.

How to Respect a Husband Who Isn’t Respectable

RESPECT – Valuing and regarding another highly. Treating someone as important or with honor. Communicating or demonstrating that someone has worth. Synonyms: appreciation, awe, admiration, consideration, deference, dignity, esteem, honor, recognition, regard, reverence, or tribute

Let’s be honest. It’s easy to show your husband respect if his behavior is respectable. But what about when it isn’t?

How you can respect your husband if he isn’t respectable?

25 Questions to Spark Authentic Communication

When was the last time you had meaningful conversation with your spouse?

Not just cliche conversation talking about the weather or the logistics of who’s going to take or pick up the kids from football and dance, but REAL conversation.

You know, the type of conversation that you used to have in the early days of your relationship. Conversation where hours seemed like minutes. Conversation that left you feeling known, heard, and secure. Conversation that led to sparks flying…in a good way!

Let’s face it. These types of conversations “just happened” and were the norm in the early days of your relationship. But as time went on, hours of long free-flowing conversations became shorter and fewer and far between.

Every Marriage Needs CPR

How to identify and revive the vital signs of your marriage

My first job at 16 was a lifeguard at a local waterpark. I thought it would be the perfect summer job. I mean, what could be better than spending my summer days sitting on a lifeguard stand getting paid to look cool and get a killer tan?

Oakley mirrored sunglasses…check.

Red Swim trunks…check.

Whistle to blow at little kids being punks…check

Training to actually know what to do in the event of someone drowning and not having a pulse…what?! Didn’t anticipate that one.

Insert CPR training.

CPR is a lifesaving technique designed to revive vital signs that have ceased to function. If you need to give someone CPR, you know the situation is dire. Something needs to be done quick or the person will die.

I want to suggest that your marriage has some vital signs as well. If any of these vital signs are absent from your marriage, the situation is dire. Something needs to be done quickly or your marriage will die.

Don’t wait for your marriage to “stop breathing” to start checking its vital signs. Regardless of whether your marriage is on its death bed or just needs a tune up, the place to start working is on its vitals:

Announcing John Shaw

Immediately Available for Pre-Marital and Individual Men's Counseling

Since Marriage Revolution started in 2006, we’ve spent a majority of our time developing tools to help hurting couples that were in need of RESTORATION.

But as God brought these hurting couples our way, we found ourselves saying more and more, “If I would have just been able to see them earlier, things wouldn’t be so bad.”

That’s why we started to be committed to proactively ENRICHING marriages through our blog and marriage events.

As we became more committed to RESTORING and ENRICHING marriages, we realized we were still falling short in focusing on what might be the most important part of any marriage ministry: PREPARATION.

We’ve done a fair amount of pre-marital counseling in the past and we’ve done it well. But, we’ve lacked a person to champion this effort and make sure we’re continually offering the best, most relevant, and biblical preparation process possible for engaged couples. We needed someone passionate, experienced, and trustworthy.

I’m excited to announce that John Shaw has joined the Marriage Revolution team to offer Pre-Marital counseling effective immediately.

John has been doing pre-marital counseling for years through his time as serving as a full time pastor. He loves it. He’s good at it. And, I’m super excited about the impact he’s going to have on engaged couples in our community.

John has been a personal friend of mine for about 3 years. Star and I trust him, and you can too.

Please check out John’s Bio and also some of what our preparation for marriage process looks like.

Feel free to reach out to myself or John directly if you have any questions or if you’d like to book an appointment.

Help Us Help Others In 2017

shutterstock_3338447151 word best sums up the ministry of Marriage Revolution in 2016…GROWTH.

Last year my board and I decided it was time to make Marriage Revolution less about a MAN and more about a MINISTRY. After almost a year of pursuing that direction, I’d say we’re off to a great start.

Check out some of the growth that has occurred over the past 12 months. And remember, each of these activities represents countless marriages and families that have been reached with the life changing (and marriage changing) message of Jesus Christ:

  • We gave away almost $22,000 in counseling scholarships to couples in need
  • We now have 4 Biblical Counselors available in our Woodlands Office
  • We opened an office in Little Rock, AR
  • We started to speak around the country at FamilyLife’s Weekend To Remember
  • We made our 2nd trip to Cambodia expanding our influence internationally
  • We are starting to partner with local churches to help them start marriage ministries

Simply put, these activities WOULD NOT HAVE BEEN POSSIBLE without our faithful donors giving to Marriage Revolution over the past 12 months.

Although our monthly donations are the financial backbone of this ministry, year-end donations typically make up about 25% of our total annual donation revenue.

We believe we have all the pieces in place for 2017 to be our most significant year of ministry yet, but we need your financial help to pull it off.

Would you consider making a special year-end financial gift to help us continue to fulfill our mission in 2017?

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Our mission has been and always will be…to provide help and hope to hurting couples without ever letting money stand in the way.

Thanks for considering helping us fulfill our mission more than ever in 2017!!

How to see your spouse with new eyes

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Guest Post: Janel Breitenstein is a married mother of 4 who writes frequently for FamilyLife. Janel and her husband John currently serve with eMi in Uganda. You can visit her blog at www.agenerousgrace.com

Remember the ’99 Julia Roberts flick, Runaway Bride?

Roberts’ character has a bad reputation for landing at the altar and, well, taking off. (Spoiler alert, here–) Turns out she’s been a chameleon of sorts, being “supportive” to the point of wholly adopting her not-so-future mate’s preferences, hobbies, and lifestyle: She likes her eggs the same way. She dons a large (fake) tattoo. She prepares to climb Everest for one of her (not-gonna-happen) honeymoons.

The fiancés are left clueless and bewildered as she turns from each of them, minutes from matrimony. I adored her! And yet, apparently none understood how little they’d actually sought out her soul, or cherished her uniqueness apart from what she contributed to their own interests.

At one point, the movie finds Richard Gere’s character, a reporter getting the scoop on her follies, tinkering at a piano with his ex-wife.

“Is that what happened?” he asks her. “Did I just…not see you?”

“No,” she responds quietly. “No, you didn’t.”

It’s easy enough, I think. To not really see this person we’re married to.